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Series: Qualities of the Alpha Male Lesson 2: How to pass the test
Girls like to test you and they will. Here's why...
There are two types of guys: AFC's and Alphas. AFC's [chumps] will agree with what a girl says all the time in order to avoid any difference of opinion. They will pay for her stuff, listen to her problems, and basically do what she wants. Alphas will call a girl on her BS. He won't pay for her shit (he may on occasion if she did something to deserve it like sleep w/him), and he won't sit there and listen to her problems for hours. His time is much too valuable for that.
Think of children. Lets say Tiffany is babysitting little Tommy for the first time. Can you guess what Tommy is going to do? He's going to do everything that his parents don't tolerate and see how far he can push Tiffany. He's going to see if she's a sucker and if he can get away with what he usually wouldn't be able to. Now keep this in mind: As soon as Tommy discovers that Tiffany is a sucker, what will his attitude towards her be? Do you think he's going to respect her? No way! He's going to walk all over her and take advantage of her. He won't even respect a thing she says. Girls are no different...
Girls will push the limits to see if you're a sucker. A girl may tell you she has no money so that you'll pay for her drink (or just flat out ask you to buy it). If she ever comes over to your place, she'll try to change the cd without asking your permission. If you're talking on the phone and say you have to go, she'll see if she can get you to stay. If you fall for any of these feminine traps, you're going to be just like Tiffany is to Tommy. A wuss. She WILL NOT RESPECT YOU. She'll use you for a couple things:
A. Money -
Not all girls will take advantage of you, but there are quite a few out there who will let you take them out, buy them dinner and expensive gifts, and the whole time, they'll think, "Man, what a sucker. This guy thinks I'm totally into him, when in reality, I can see he lets people walk all over him. What a loser. I wouldn't even kiss this guy."
B. Intellectual Whores ( IW) -
Some of you have probably heard this term before, and others right now are like wtf?!? An intellectual whore, as I understand it, is a guy that girls use to talk to about their problems. Basically, a guy that gets used for his brain. lol. Girls will talk to IW's for hours to talk about themselves and their problems. The guy is usually interested in the girl, but the girl has already seen him as a wuss and just wants to use him as an emotional outlet. The guy will think that the girl totally digs him, but the girl has NO INTENTION of anything more. If you talk to a girl for hours on the phone, be careful, because if you aren't an IW yet, you are sure following all the right steps to get there.
C. Friendship -
You will never be Plan A, B, C, or anything at the beginning of the alphabet for that matter. You're her backup plan. When all her other plans fail and she has nothing else to do, she'll know you will be down to hang out.
E. Bragging Rights -
I was one of the biggest AFC's you've ever seen. I was always "the sweetest guy." You should've heard some of the romantic shit I pulled out of my ass for girls that ended up walking all over me. It was seriously the best you've ever heard of, but no matter what I did, it never worked. NOT ONCE! I used to think that by doing something totally thoughtful and romantic/sweet, the girl would totally fall for me. If you think like this, stop believing what you see in movies cause that only happens in movies. Now think about this: What is the FIRST thing any girl will do if a guy does something really romantic for her? CALL HER FRIENDS AND TELL THEM! Now, you may think you're on the road to high success with women because you just did something sweet, but you have to realize why she calls her friends. All she is doing is bragging. She doesn't think of you as a nice guy, and neither do her friends; she sees you as a chump. When you do something like this for a girl, you've just confessed to her that you're totally head-over-heels for her and that SHE controls YOU! She's calling her friends to let them know that she controls you; not because she likes you. You are another sucker to put in the trophy case.
D. Any other Favors -
If you're good with computers, she'll call you over to fix hers for free or help her with her History project. If you're smart, she'll ask you to tutor her (or if she's really mean, do her homework). If you have a nice car, she'll have you pick her up and drive her ass around so she can be seen in a nice car (not to be seen with YOU like you may have thought).
So the big question is, how you pass these fucking tests? Here are some steps that are going to help you.
1. Recognize that girls actually do test guys and what their attitudes are towards those who fail
2. Recognize what these tests are (or what they look like) so you're ready
3. Always stay calm and think about your words/actions beforehand (This is especially important if you're just stepping out of AFC-hood)
4. Stand your ground and let her know that you know what she's trying to do, and that you aren't going to fall into her trap.
Well we've covered step 1 already, so now we'll go through steps 2-4 so that you don't get put into the chump category again. I'll give a few examples of some situations, and how I might respond. Now keep in mind there is more than one way to respond. Don't memorize any of this; the goal is to understand the jist of this.
SCENARIO 1 - Coffee Shop
You're standing in line to order/pay for your coffee, and the girl is standing next to you the entire time. When it's your turn, you step up the counter, and of course, she steps up with you. She obviously thinks you're going to pay for her. Most guys would
You: Hey there. I'd like a 16 oz White chocolate Mocha.
Cashier: And for you? :: looks at girl ::
Girl: I'll have a Grande Vanilla Latte with a hint of cinnamon.
Now, you're in a situation you don't exactly want to be in. She set you up so that you'd have to pay for her. Now there are two options: Pay for her or don't.
A) If you pay for her, you're a sucker. I've asked a few of my close girl friends this. When a guy buys a girl a drink or whatever, she thinks of him as a sucker and doesn't respect him (especially if it's the first time together). If you decide to pay for her, you can always say, "I'll get this one, and you can get the next one". But keep in mind: there may not be a next one with this girl.
B) Here's What I would do. If when the cashier says "And for you?", she pauses to think, jump in and say, "Oh these are going to be separate". haha. This bitch will be shocked that you just pulled that on her. That's a guy who knows how to fucking be alpha. If when the cashier asks she orders immediately, then wait until she's done and let the cashier know that these are going to be separate. If she says she doesn't have any money, you can say, "You came to get coffee and didn't bring any money???" She'll look like a fool. She may say something like, "But I expected you to pay" to which you can say, "I barely even know you. I don't buy drinks for strangers" or something to that effect. Now, she can either pull some money out of her purse to pay, you can tell her "Well I guess you're not going to get any coffee" (or you'd could throw in some c/f "If you do so and so I might let you have a sip of my coffee" *smile* Make her approach somebody and do something embaressing, or tell her she has to make you laugh, or something where the spotlight is on her and you can lay back and watch her pathetic attempts. The third option is to cancel the orders and just go for a walk.
SCENARIO 2 - Begging you to stay
So you've just met this girl, but you know it's not a good idea to spend much time with her. So after about 30-45 minutes, you wait until she's laughing her head off and look at your watch and say,
You: I had a good time, but I've got to catch up with some friends.
Her: :: confused:: Can't you cancel your plans (or) Can't you call them up and tell them you're busy?
Now here she's trying to see if you'll budge for her. Here's a bit of advice.......DONT! Say something like, "I'm sorry, but I've already made plans. I'm not one to make plans then cancel last minute because I have other options." She'll see that you aren't going to fall her for pathetic attempt, that you stick to your plans (and don't flake on people), and, one of the more important points; she'll realize you don't push your friends aside when a girl comes along. You'll look like a guy who is used to having a lot of girls.
One last bit of advice. If she says something you disagree with, don't sit there quietly or pretend to agree. Now you don't want to be negative, so I wouldn't recommend doing it for a worthless or small point, but if it's something you disagree with, let her know. Keep in mind alpha males don't complain or whine. They defend their perspectives with good conversational skills and in a calm, adult-like manner. As soon as you start whining she starts losing respect for you
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