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Getting in the PUA State of Mind and Building Your Confidence |
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Written by Sauce-Head
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Tuesday, 28 July 2009 01:47 |
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Getting in the PUA State of Mind and Building Your Confidence In order to change the way you act you have to change the way you THINK
You may have the best pick up line in the world. But it’s pretty much useless if you don’t know how to put it to use. At least before this thread most of you guys were "IGNORANT" and had an excuse. But now to all the rAFC (recovering AFC ...coz after u know where u went wrong..you hopefully won’t be repeating it again and hence "recovering") You don’t have one! and you might feel worse if you "know what to do" but you "can't do it"
(Matrix: "There’s a difference between knowing the path and walking the path")
Attitudes you should start living by....-
I MAKE NO EXCUSES AS A MAN
I MAKE NO EXCUSES FOR MYSELF
I DONT NEED YOU, YOU NEED ME
IF YOU DONT WANNA BE WITH ME ITS YOUR LOSS!
MY TIME IS PRECIOUS, SO DONT WASTE IT
YOU CANT CONTROL ME
I DONT GET RATTLED BY SETBACKS, I SIMPLY LEARN BY THEM
I GLANCE AT WHAT I MIGHT LOOS, BUT I FOUCS ON WHAT I CAN WIN
I CAN GET ANY WOMEN I DESIRE
Stop making EXCUSES if you get caught looking at a SHB then say
it! " instead of.."uh..ah ..did I?"
Stop making excuses when you’re asking a women out. After all Testosterone does run thru your veins and it’s only natural to have those "Animal Desires".
A great deal of success and power with women has nothing to do about the way you act and feel about them . STOP NEEDING them so much.
Most women do not feel "Complete" if they don’t have a man next to them but that doesn’t make a difference to us men...we are still MEN whether we have a women or not they "NEED US" more (and now more so ever since men are becoming "rare" you'll find that in most places in the world there are more WOMEN than Men). Never start putting a women on a pedestal and never believe she is superior than you and she is doing a favor by spending time with you!...
Don’t let "Getting LAID" be your most essential goal. If you do you might lose sight of your other priorities and in a sense you lose all the "Fun" aspects and it gets to be a compulsion. Women definitely make nice additions to your life , but a life spent nothing but chasing women is a pretty stupid one.
You might be shocked to learn that an evening with a good book can be more stimulating than a boring date with dumb bimbo with huge fake tits.
So STOP NEEDING women so much and a good way to do it is by doing something that gets you AWAY from them.
You'll soon find out that your confidence will increase that will lead greater success with women (the more laid back you are, the more you get laid).
Make a List of the qualities you have make a list of achievements you have accomplished. Look at it...look at it again..and probably your thinking "geez is that really me"? Doesn’t it feel good? And you’re probably thinking right now "I'm just as good if not better than that average Joe with that hot chick".
There is one "magic" word that will make you "irresistible" in the eyes of women that word is.........
"NO"
You must use it once in a while...but don’t overkill it! It especially does wonders when your pursuing a SHB as you'll be more of a "challenge" When a women senses that you have self respect and You have your boundaries of what you tolerate and what’s allowed, she knows she found out what she wants = "a man she can never hope to control".
Just like any other aspect of life you must understand that Picking Up women successfully needs a lotta PRACTICE. No, picking up women wasn’t magically blessed quality innate with all the successful PUA's. They have practiced their butts off...and in time started perfecting their games..there probably was a time when they were total AFCs without a clue and faced rejection a lotta times but they never took the rejections "Personally" since she doesn’t know a thing about you! so how could she possibly be rejecting you??? you got to understand is she was just
- Rejecting your approach. So we should change it accordingly
-She probably wasn’t in the right state of mind
-She just got burnt ....
etc..etc.
So the point is DONT take it personally. The best PUA in the world have probably been rejected the most but that didn’t stop them from trying, being persistent and fastidious in what they were doing. They knew in time the WILL become better and most of all they didn’t take it personally.
When you a SHB in close proximity this might be going thru your brain.
"ok she is smokin man!"
"wow check out that fine ass...damn!!!"
"ok ..ok..let’s see what line I can use- it has to bee extremely witty!...cocky and funny ..and it should pack a punch!!!..ok think.."
"man she's too hot for me she might say get the f*&ck away looser"
"that 300 pound guy over there is probably her boy friend...he might just sit on me!..."
"I'll probably make a fool of myself if I say anything"
"Shit my brain is fried!...I cant think straight!...."
(you’re trembling like a volcano and sweating your butt off!)
STOP
cool down your horses stop thinking negative first! And start thinking something like this....
"Ok spotted a SHB...not bad..not bad"
(made some good EC, walking up to her)
"She's probably never seen a guy with class, and style who can confidently approach her"
"you've done this a 100 times...and with hotter SHB it should be cake walk"
"It’s her loss if she doesn’t like me"
(she's blushing and giggling and looking down submissively)
"she's all yours..man u got nothing to lose"
"That 300 pound guy is probably her AFC chump who buys her stuff and shit..first close her and become
best buds with that dude you'll probably get in sum club free!."
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"Hi!.......
See instead of thinking "I shouldn’t screw up" start thinking " I'll get it right as I always do". When you’re thinking negatively your creating the mental images of all
the ways u might screw up and all the ways you’re gonna fuck up. But if you think positively u give your brain all the "POSITIVE" images it can use...which ultimately will lead to
success. This kind of approach works with all areas of life. Let’s say you’re taking a "dreaded" test the next day instead of think "I shouldn’t mess up..i shouldn’t screw this one"
start thinking "I will ace this test..I'll just be fine!".
By instilling these attitudes you don’t have to become an arrogant braggart or lack in sense of humor or class. You can be warm and friendly at the same time be direct and
powerful.
If you start living by these attitudes and change the way you start thinking you'll soon find out that your "WHOLE" life will change in time. 
P.S. You guys need to get out there and keep practicing. Also never stop educating yourself, practice reinforces what you have learned but you need to truly master all of this so it flows natural. If you need more help getting this stuff down read a few of Ross Jeffries Books, and get hold of his "unstoppable confidence" tapes. He KNOWS his shit....
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