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Pick-up Artist Lesson #20: How to Make Yourself Look Better Looks aren’t everything, but they sure do make a difference. Looks are an attention-getter. They get girls to notice you, open up opportunities for eye contact, which then lead into an effortless approach. Keep in mind girls won’t make eye contact with you because you have a good personality; how will they know what you’re like? They can only be initially interested in you based on if you’re physically appealing to them. You don’t even have to be super good-looking, you just have to take care of yourself and you’ll notice a HUGE difference. And once they do make eye contact, that’s when your personality comes through.
There are several things you can do to make yourself look better. Jr. Year in High School I didn’t get any attention from girls…Senior Year I turned into one of the hottest guys in the school and had girls I didn’t even know wanting me. A lot of you guys have been out there approaching women but may not have done these simple things that can really make a big difference. So here they are.
Body
You can’t control the shape of your nose, the size of your lips or the color of your eyes, but you can control what your body is like. If you’re overweight, diet down and drop the fat. If you’re skinny, hit the weight room and put on some muscle. Body makes a big difference in your overall looks. Clothes look better on you, you gain an incredible amount of confidence, and you look good.
Learn to Dress
So many of my guy friends go out in the same crappy jeans every night and they may switch up wearing a t-shirt or a sweatshirt. Their shoes are all beat up. They don’t look good. They recycle clothes every week and they don’t even know how to buy clothes that properly fit. Their t-shirts are too big, sweatshirts are all beat up, and they look like every other guy there. The important thing about dressing is YOU NEED TO STAND OUT IN A GOOD WAY. I suggest you develop your own style and make sure your clothes are unique. You’ll always stand out and girls will sometimes approach you.
Lets start out with t-shirts.
I’ll occasionally go out in jeans and a t-shirt, but I make sure I have a clean look to me. First of all, I have a good body, which gives me an advantage right off the bat. The t-shirts I wear don’t wear me. They fit my body and look good. Avoid huge t-shirts or those XXL football jerseys. I stay away from t-shirts that have sleeves past the halfway mark of my bicep. Just make sure whatever you get fits your style.
Pants
I suggest you go out and buy a lot of clothes. I personally love shopping. Pants are huge though. The pants you wear can really make or break you. I like Express Mens/Structure jeans a lot (and the rest of their clothes for that matter). Gap and Old Navy occasionally make good jeans, and I like the occasional pair at Abercrombie. Union Bay even makes some good jeans. I NEVER buy the jeans that are smaller at the bottom. Get the boot-cut jeans. You can go down to Ross or TJ Maxx and pick up nice clothes for real cheap. Go with whatever style suits you. I don’t feel comfortable in pants that are really tight. I also don’t like pants that can hold 3 other people. I wear jeans that will stay on my waist without a belt (although I wear a belt), but are baggy enough for comfort.
Shoes
Women LOVE shoes! If every time a girl sees you, you’re wearing a different pair of shoes, she’s GOING TO NOTICE. You definitely want to go with your basic white and black shoes. For white I love the Stan Smiths, but any nice, casual, walking shoes will do. These will go with pretty much any outfit and give you a clean, but casual look. Just make sure you keep them white and when they start to wrinkle up and look bad, get a new pair. For dress shoes, I like to have a brown pair and a black pair. Doc Martens are really nice, but pricey. Skechers makes some good shoes also. Just make sure your shoes go with your entire outfit. If I’m wearing a fully unbuttoned collar shirt with a black undershirt for example, I’ll usually go with black shoes to match with the undershirt. Women notice these subtle details.
If you have any long-sleeve collar shirts, the unbuttoned sleeve/slightly rolled up sleeve is in. This looks great with a watch and a ring. Avoid tucking in (just make sure your shirts aren’t to long) unless you’re wearing a tie, but MAKE SURE the shirt isn’t too long. It has to be just the right length.
In general, make sure you dress well. Don’t be afraid to go out and spend some money on good clothes. If you don’t know what you’re doing, either find a guy friend who seems to dress well or a girl to go shopping with and help you out.
Develop your own style. Don’t imitate everyone else. If you can stand out in a good but unique way, you’ll get noticed…trust me. Also, watch some celebrities and see how they’re dressing. Look up photo galleries of people like Carson Daly, Brad Pitt, maybe even Ricky Martin. When you’re out, if you see a guy who is dressed well, pay attention to what he’s wearing and any minor details such as accessories he may have on. Get some ideas and develop your own style.
Hairstyle
Have you ever seen someone who didn’t comb their hair one day, and looked totally different? Hair makes a big difference in your overall look. You could even move up or down the scale just based on your hair. I think it was David DeAngelo who suggested going to a gay hairstylist and letting them pick out a hairstyle for you. It seems as if the short/spiky/messy hairstyle is in (check out pictures of Brad Pitt for what I’m talking about, although he changes his hair every week). Once you get your hair cut properly, you can achieve this look with gel, mousse, or pomade. Also, don’t trim the sideburns up to your ear. I think this look always looks better with sideburns. Also make sure your hair is always trimmed. I like getting a haircut every 2 weeks on the dot.
Teeth
If you haven’t noticed this, next time you watch TV, look at people’s teeth. You’ll notice that they ALL have white teeth. You don’t notice it cause they all do it, but a subtle change like this makes a difference. Try getting some crest whitening kits and whitening your teeth.
Nails
Keep them clean and trim. Girls notice nails.
Glasses
Switch to contacts or make sure you have stylish new glasses.
Facial Hair
Shave everyday. If you have a good look with facial hair (go-tee or thin stubble) make sure it’s trimmed and/or combed. Keep all other hair trimmed or shaved. If you’re starting to develop a unibrow, get rid of it!
Accessories
These nice little accessories make subtle changes that affect your overall appearance. Dont overdo the accessories though. Keep them light.
Watch
Get a nice watch that will go with most of your outfits. Maybe even a unique one that will get people to comment on it. Just make sure it doesn’t look cheap. Expect to spend $70+ on a nice watch. I personally don’t like Fossils. I’d go for something like Kenneth Cole (KC) or similar. I have a KC and girls comment on it ALL the time. I think it only ran me $105.
Ring(s)
Get a plain silver ring or two. They’re not too pricey. I have a silver ring that I wear on my right index finger that girls always comment on.
Necklaces
I love the casual necklaces. I have a 18k gold one that I rarely wear, I usually wear the simple/casual kind. You can find some nice ones at skater stores like Pac Sun or Zumiez. $20 or less.
Cologne
Girls love it when a guy smells good. But don’t go for standard colognes. Try using something not extremely common. I rarely wear cologne, but when I do, I get really good feedback from women. I have a bottle of Jean Paul (green and white bottle shaped like a human body), which girls absolutely love. Hugo Boss is the only cologne I use that may be more common. Go to the Bon or Nordstrom’s and try out their colognes. Go for some Italian ones. Spray it on a card and go ask a girl what she thinks. Also go for different smells. Don’t wear the same cologne when you see a girl again. Switch up the smell, she’ll notice.
Skin
Keep your skin nice, clean, and smooth. Don’t be afraid to use some moisturizer. If you have acne, get rid of it. Get it treated. And tan! Tanning looks great to women!
For those of you who are wondering, I usually go for a nice casual look. I look like I’m dressed up but I also look very casual and comfortable (shoes usually can determine if you look dressed up or casual). I don’t wear dress shoes too often. But that’s just me. Make sure whatever style you develop fits you.
When you do go shopping, find out what kinds of clothes look good and what colors you look best in/combinations. Go into stores you have never been to and make sure you try on everything! Switch up your style and try new things. I haven’t done this, but I’ve heard of guys getting together 3-4 girls and having them pick out his clothes and getting good results. After all, it is women you are trying to sleep with.
Now, clothes and hair are great, but presenting yourself is what’s going to sell. Look confident. Keep your chest out and shoulders back (but please don’t look like those people who think they’re better than everyone else). Don’t overdo it.
Slow down your walk. Avoid sudden movements. Work on your talking. Project your voice and make sure you pause here and there. Practice your voice tone.
Dressing nice and having a decent body will do wonders for you. You’ll be amazed at the changes; it’s like a whole new world. You’ll go places and girl’s eyes will be all over you. You’ll walk into a party and you’ll be able to quickly tell how many girls there like what they see. They’ll let you know…
These are just tips to help out those of you who have trouble. This isn't the ONLY way to dress, just some suggestions.
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